Why can't I feel my orgasms?
Johanina Wikoff
Q: I experienced my first orgasm about two months ago. I am a 31 year old woman . Until this time, I truly believed I was incapable of having one. In general, I get turned on the most when I feel my partner is about to come. When I had my first orgasm, my partner was about to come, and as he did I felt this electric shock hit my body. It was unmistakable. I had my first ORGASM!! Since then, I have not had this experience again. My boyfriend tells me that I ejaculate like a river breaking through a dam, the sheets are soaked, and this has never happened to me before either. My question is: why is it that when I ejaculate;
- I don't feel it, and
- I feel like I can keep going?
My boyfriend and I are very open with each other. He thinks that I could be multi-orgasmic. That may be, but I want to know how I can achieve that electric-shock orgasm again. When it first happened, I didn't feel any signs of what was to come (no pun intended). I feel very frustrated. I am experiencing the most intense, emotional and spiritual relationship with this man. He is my "soul mate." We both feel like this. What is keeping me from connecting with him in this sexual way again?
A: Many women who are beginning to experience ejaculation don't notice it occurring. If you pay attention to the sensations in your pelvis during orgasm, you will notice a feeling of fullness and bearing down right before ejaculation and a sense of deep and pleasurable release that has a different quality than the orgasm that occurs from clitoral stimulation alone. You feel like you can keep going because you can. Unlike a man who requires time after his ejaculation before he can regain his erection, a woman can go from peak to peak of orgasmic pleasure for as long as she likes.
Having many orgasms is frequently a doorway for women in recognizing their womanly power and potential. The current of energy you felt in your first orgasm initiated you into the power of sexual energy. There are many kinds of orgasms to experience. If you do not attempt to recreate the ones you have experienced, you will find that untold pleasures and energetic openings await you. Remember to breathe, be present, relax, let go of your goals and enjoy the ride.
By the way, having strong PC muscles by doing your Kegel sexercises dramatically improves the feeling of orgasm and the interior of the Yoni. they also improve arousal and response and tend to drive a woman toward multiple orgasmic pleasure.
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The following question is answered by Johanina Wikoff, Ph.D. also known as "Dr. Josie." She is an author, lecturer and international workshop presenter. Dr. Wikoff will answer questions submitted to questions@tantra.com.
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