Tantra has not stopped pre-mature ejaculation, Help!
Johanina Wikoff
Q: I have been practicing the Tantric hold back techniques (sphincter and PC muscle squeeze, pressure on the million-dollar spot, breathing) for premature ejaculation. While the problem has improved some, it has not gone away. Is there a key element to this that I need to practice more?
A: Ejaculating before you want to is a common enough problem affecting many men. You seem to be heading in the right direction by strengthening the PC muscle and learning breathing techniques. Make sure you are in a relaxed state during arousal and not tense. Learning where your particular edge is takes time. Keep practicing. Are you also looking at possible emotional issues that may be getting in the way of you wanting to be inside your partner? Anger and hurt feelings take their toll on sexual functioning when they are not dealt with in an honest, caring manner. Couples often do not say what is bothering them for fear of hurting their partner or upsetting the relationship equilibrium. Sex suffers from the unspoken conversations between partners. Set aside some time to speak about your feelings in a non-blame, non-judgemental way that will open your hearts to each other more.
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The following question is answered by Johanina Wikoff, Ph.D. also known as "Dr. Josie." She is an author, lecturer and international workshop presenter. Dr. Wikoff will answer questions submitted to questions@tantra.com.
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