A: The G-spot is actually an area rather than a spot. It changes shape, size and sensitivity with different influences. Emotions seem to get stirred up when the G-area is stimulated. I, as well as many of my colleagues, believe that past trauma, as well as unexpressed emotions in the present, create holding or armor in the vagina. Breathing, eye contact, verbally acknowledging the emotion or sensation without getting into a verbal process or stopping the massage seems to work well. The giving partner lightens up their touch, gently holds the spot where the pain arises with the finger or fingers and asks if they should reduce the pressure even more. The receiver continues to breathe and relax and give instructions. The focus should be on resuming the massage when it feels good to do so. The emotional contact is important in creating a safe container for the release, so remember, breathe and make eye contact.