Discovering your G-spot and opening to the pleasure that it holds is a wonderful exploration that generally requires more information than this space will allow. Please find a good book, video or audiotape from a reliable source to set you in motion.
Adding Tantric techniques to the basics will propel you into a realm beyond the physical. The orgasmic capacity your body is capable of will expand greatly as will your ability to receive and give love.
Some women will find G-spot exploration easy and some a little more challenging. Old emotional wounding we're not aware of can come up for some of us. Bringing your consciousness to the exploration. This is the essence of Tantra- awareness of self and the integration that follows.
Relax. Begin with a bath, a massage and slow arousal to music that is sensual yet soft. Face your partner and breathe together, in unison, for five minutes with your eyes softly open and connected. Each of you can take turns speaking about your fears, hopes and concerns so that the other fully understands and opens compassionately. Keep your eyes open and connected to your partner. This helps with communication and invites open coaching and encouragement for both people.
Get really turned on. Set up trust by having your partner ask permission to enter your Sacred Space or Temple.
Expect and except anything; crying, laughing, pain, emotional hurt, bliss and pleasure. This is truly more of a healing and opening than a sexual experience, at least the first few times. Stay conscious. Check in frequently and watch your partner’s responses. Encourage her to let sounds out, be they pleasurable or questioning. Encourage her to speak any feelings that are coming up.
Remember to breathe deeply into your belly. Let it expand and contract naturally and softly. If you are doing this it’s hard to tighten your vaginal muscles, which cuts off your ability to feel in your pelvis. If you have been doing your Kegel exercises you’ll probably be in touch with your G-spot.
When you bring this experience to an end please make sure to face your partner and thank them for the honor of participating in this way with you. Each of you tell the other that you love them and are thankful to have them in your life. You may want to lie together for a moment or possibly try the spooning position. It’s very nurturing and connective.
