The male Tantra adept, by honoring the female partner as a manifestation of the divine, does so with his own awakening divine nature. He should prepare himself by meditating as though seated in the secret vessel of the Mother Goddess, that is within her womb. When he is secure in his meditation he should visualize the Cosmic Yoni pulsating around him and causing his energy field to resonate in union. In this way he will generate the initial waves of ecstasy to be absorbed and then transmitted to the female partner as an offering.
When the male tantrika has become proficient in this visualization he should proceed to see the female partner as the Goddess Sakti, Parvati, Radha or Lakshmi existing within the lotus wheels of his own body so that the female partner has become the Goddess who dwells within. He then makes a special offering to the secret lotus of his female partner, touching her petals gently as a blessing with his fingertips. He should then slowly part the petals of her lotus with his fingertips and listening for the deepening of her breath and sounds of pleasure stroke her lightly in a state of tranquil suchness, erotic wonder and sensitive spiritual wakefulness.
The sublime female partner prepares for this sadhana by bathing, applying fragrant oils and singing mantras. In her meditation, she should visualize the Siva lingam as though residing and pulsating within her heart and yoni. She should also imagine that her vulva is the lotus blossom of enlightenment whose fragrance and elixirs awaken the awareness and energies of bliss consciousness within her sublime and devoted male partner. She should see her devoted male partner as the embodiment of a divine being like Siva or Krisna whose lingam is the living instrument of bliss consciousness awakening.
After the male partner has made the requisite offerings to the lotus, he should then with his lips and tongue, stimulate, and then drink deeply, the copious secretions from the vulva, and mixing these with the elixirs of his mouth, offer this to the mouth of the goddess for her enjoyment and absorption. Next he should envelop the lotus stem of the vulva with his mouth until the female partner releases her innermost secret essences. Only then does he bring the lingam to enter the moistened gate of the goddess as they do mutual absorption attaining superlative spiritual erotic completion in transcendental bliss consciousness.