A: I recommend learning "The Fire Breath Orgasm." A description of the technique is in Jwala's book, Sacred Sex. This will open up the pathways and allow you to get in touch with your ecstasy body. After practicing this technique a few times, add a self-pleasuring ritual after twenty minutes of this breathing (or when you are bringing it up from the sex chakra to the heart chakra). Then do your hold back (stopping the ejaculation and bringing the energy up to the heart chakra) by squeezing the PC muscles and hold your breath until the erection lessens. Continue the self pleasuring and hold backs a few more times. Enjoy!