A: Try it for awhile and then answer your own question. What I'm suggesting here is an approach that is much more likely to bring you long-term satisfaction, fulfillment, and certainty about your maleness. Remember that the need to conquer is a need to prove yourself, which is usually a reaction to an unconscious insecurity. Every report I've gotten from men I've taught Tantra (six months to six years later) declares that they would never want to go back to their old ways. They feel more relaxed, powerful, and certain about their sexuality and love making, and women like them much better! Tantra teaches methods for cultivating heart-centered sexuality as opposed to simply a genital experience, which can be impersonal and only temporarily fulfilling. Heart-centered sexuality, is also especially meaningful and beneficial to couples as it creates a valuable foundation and boost for loving, intimate relationships. One great, satisfying, loving, intimate relationship usually suspends the need for hunt and conquer.

For others there are deeper emotional issues, including inhibitions, shame, or wounding from childhood. Tantra works primarily with moving energy, focusing awareness, and developing loving attention. As more energy, awareness, and love are brought to any emotional block, the suppressed hurt and pain will come to the surface to be released. The modern Tantra that I and others have been developing has had to include some psychological and therapeutic techniques to deal with these emotional issues and prepare the person for learning and enjoying the Tantric methods. Many people have to go through some healing before they can enjoy pleasure, not to mention ecstatic sex. Facing deep-seated fears and inhibitions can be temporarily uncomfortable, but the rewards are enormous and for these men and women the opening to pleasure, sensuality and sexuality is like a gift from the gods. I have witnessed and facilitated much sexual healing through this combination of Tantra and psychology and can confirm that it truly benefits peoples' health, vitality, happiness, relationships, and the overall quality of their lives. So, although this may sound scary to someone who has been sexually inhibited, disappointed, or frustrated most of their life, trust me, the work is worth it. With some courage, effort, and practice you will get the results you've always wanted, and in fact probably more pleasure than you've ever dreamed possible.