One of the key components of Tantra and Tantric Sex is focus and consciousness. The partner is seen as the embodiment of the god or goddess and is therefore honored as such. Learning to focus attention is difficult for many modern people. We live in a constant rush with stress at every turn. No wonder we want our relationships to be sanctuaries from the storm of “life”.

Yoga and meditation techniques are good sources for learning to focus heart and mind. One of the things that meditation and yoga focuses on is the breath. Focus on the breath brings you into the moment. You become more connected with yourself.

Life gives us ample opportunity, during the day and the night, to practice focus. Focus allows you to drop into an even deeper connection with your lover. Connection means that you feel a deep understanding and vital essence in the other person’s presence that makes both of you feel bonded...