Tantra - The Door to Ecstasy
Tantra says yes to life. It is not a belief or a faith but a way of living and acting. On this path, pleasure, vision, and ecstasy are celebrated rather than repressed. The Tantric path encompasses beauty, sensitivity, and exhilaration through eating, drinking, tasting, smelling, touching. It embraces and enhances all forms of creative expression, such as movement and dance, massage, martial arts, the fine arts, healing, and music. Through experiencing and glorying in the delights of the body, the body becomes a temple in which you experience the sacred. It becomes a doorway to spiritual evolution.
People who practice Tantra are called Tantrikas. They view sexual energy as a divine, all-encompassing life force that sleeps within the individual, permeates the universe, and affects everything we do from birth to death. As sexual beings, we have the ability to raise that energy within ourselves and use it to directly experience alternate or mystical states of consciousness. In effect, we become "gods" and "goddesses," our bodies transformed into temples of male and female divinity.
As you follow the Tantric path, you will learn new ways to open, develop, and refine your senses. These techniques are part of the ancient science of Tantric Yoga, the spiritual discipline that works directly with sexual energy. They include awareness exercises that involve focusing attention on all the sensations that are available to you moment by moment. In the beginning, techniques are helpful because your mind, body, and past experience often interfere with your awareness and ability to love. Who you think you are and how you think you should be often hampers your freedom to change. So the structure of a discipline is useful because it helps you move out of old mental, emotional, and physical habits that restrict your aliveness. But in the end, the ultimate form is no form.The ultimate technique is spontaneity.
from the book Sacred Sex
Choosing to be generous in your relationships
by Suzie Heumann
"How delicious an instrument is woman, when artfully played upon; how capable is she of producing the most exquisite harmonies, of executing the most complicated variations of love, and of giving the most Divine of erotic pleasures." --The Ananga Ranga
The Ananga Ranga is a book of love that appeared later than the Kama Sutra. The quote above gives credence to the notion that when we are present and giving to our partner we receive the same back in generous amounts. We spiral up-wards, in ever-expanding ways, rather than into old, time –worn patterns that can create a downward spiral. Ways of being bring our energy either into full creative possibility or take us to a place that lacks energy and makes us feel stuck.
In the practice of Tantra, when we learn the ways in which our partner likes to be touched, spoken to and respected, we can not help but have deeper communications and greater understanding of their nature. This generosity of spirit and the creating of the time it takes to explore and learn new things together, brings a bigger awareness to the relationship. Spiritual Sexuality is but one of the paths that a couple can take to bring about a transformation to the relationship, but it is the one that those who know say can bring about the most profound changes.
The simple act of sitting cross-legged, facing each other and eye gazing and breathing together can cause a whole range of reactions in a couple. They might feel silly or New Age-y, afraid and vulnerable, excited or confused. But if they stay, breathe, and soften, a whole range of new sensations will arise. Not only will the partners feel more open, they will be passing valuable pheromones to each other. These are the love chemicals that are contained in our breath, body secretions and sweat. They are the love attractors and an important part of what connected you with your partner when you first met.
When a couple wants great sex the prerequisite is great communication. If either partner can’t comfortably ask for what they want or would like to playfully explore, the trust breaks down and the spiral of energy works it’s way downward. Trust and truth are necessary for there to be an opening for one’s nature to come out. A woman might be the Goddess described in the quote above, but if she feels that it isn’t safe to bring that erotic part of herself forth, she’ll feel constrained and small. If, on the other hand, she is invited to ask for what she wants and act the way she sometimes feels, not only will her sexual energy increase, the same increase in energy will be apparent throughout her life.
This is universally true for all people, in anything they do in life. That is what Tantra is truly about.
Tantra - The Science of Ecstasy
by Suzie Heumann
Tantra is an ancient way of looking at the world. In the Tantric view, all life and every aspect of creation including sexuality is celebrated and held as sacred.
The Tantric traditions of ancient India and other cultures viewed sexual energy as the source of life itself and as one of the most powerful forces available to us as human beings. Sexual ecstasy was seen as a taste of the divine. In these sex positive cultures, sophisticated lovemaking skills were developed and taught as a science and as an art. Since we have repressed sexual energy for so long in the West, we are only now beginning to rediscover this precise and highly developed science.
By extending and expanding the peak of sexual ecstasy, erotic explorers of the past found that the act of love could become a natural vehicle for exploring altered states as well as for deepening intimacy between two loving partners.
Many of us have been fortunate enough to experience moments in love where all boundaries dissolve and we become one with our beloved and all of existence. Unfortunately these experiences are usually very short lived. Sex in Tantra aims to heighten and prolong the magical connection that develops between a man and a woman when they are lost in the ecstasy of love. We have not been trained in the skills required to expand that fleeting moment into a sustainable state. As we are now finding out, there are specific techniques that have been developed for achieving and controlling these states. After being suppressed for nearly a thousand years these methods are now being rediscovered and made available in the form of books, videos and workshops.
The vision of Tantra.com is to facilitate access to these wonderful tools of peace, power and transformation for as many people as are ready to use them. It is our firm belief that the development of advanced love skills is one of the most appropriate areas for human exploration as we move into the uncertainties of the next millennium. Love does not destroy our environment the way so many other forms of gratification do and it certainly doesn't lead to aggression and war. In an age of divorce and sexually transmitted diseases we need nothing more than to form stronger and more lasting bonds of love. Tantra lights the way.
Relationship Sex and Relationship Tantra
by Suzie Heumann
"Whatever thoughts are in their minds, they vanish completely with the onslaught of passionate embrace. When a man and woman are all in oneness, thus clasped together, there is nothing in the whole world to surpass the superb joy of that moment." -The Kama Sutra
Ah, in a perfect world this is the way it would be. We would be so in love that we couldn’t wait to see each other; to smother each other in kisses and caresses; to tell each other of our day with all its intimate hurts and little glories.
The reality is that sometimes long-term relationships begin to develop into more of a basic support system than a loving, growing, vital partnership. We begin to discount touch, care, clear communication, trust, truth telling and sensual and sexual activity. The daily grind runs our lives and relationships.
When we can step back and vision another set of possibilities, though, we can bring about profound transformation to our marriages and relationships. The Kama Sutra and the tenets of Tantric philosophy taught that love is a profound vehicle to conscious, ecstatic living. Practices included not only a complete set of sex positions but elaborate techniques for kissing, hugging, holding, speaking and conducting onesself in an honorable manor, according to the times.
If you find yourself in this situation with your lover, it often feels impossible to create a new vision and possibility in which to build your loving connection.Try spending five minutes every morning and every evening in the Spoon Position. Place the woman in the front, on her side, and her partner just behind her, in a lying down position. The person behind then places their hand over the heart area of the front person. The front person sets the pace of breathing slowly and consciously.
This practice aids in putting us into a common space and rhythm from which to relate. Practice telling the truth! When we say what is in our hearts in a vulnerable, non-blaming way, our partner will have compassion and caring show up in place of hurt. Introduce a new playful experience into your lovemaking.
Perhaps you might want to blindfold your partner and treat them to an hour of sensual pleasuring. Tantric philosophy has us take risks to explore the realms of conscious growing. Risk something with your partner - tell a truth, try something new, give where you haven't before, make an unreasonable request that will actually delight your partner.