A: For a female who is unable to orgasm, physical and psychological causes need to be considered and ruled out in order for the Tantric methods to be consistently effective. Certainly developing the ability to orgasm will likely include learning to completely quiet the mind and be very present and learning to enjoy sensual pleasure and love your body. Train yourself to watch your mind and body and notice if there is a consistent point where you cut off contact with the increasing pleasure, perhaps by tensing areas of your body, restricting your breathing and undulations, and holding limiting thoughts just below the conscious level. What are you telling yourself about the experience? Substituting positive affirmations, spoken internally during lovemaking, can be enormously effective, such as "I am learning to love feeling more and more pleasure and arousal!" and "the more turned on and pleasured I get, the better it is for me." Also be willing to communicate (you may have to learn how) with your partner in a non-blaming way concerning what may be bothering you about your lovemaking or about what you need from him and the setting to feel safe and relaxed.

Apparently there are two major types of female orgasms: clitoral and internal (G-spot). And there are two styles of each: one style is based on achieving maximal localized intensity through heightened excitement and tension, while the other is based upon deep relaxation with flowing, energized, orgasmic, full-body arousal. Either is viable and women who are capable of both often choose to do both and blend them. Women who regularly experience multiple orgasms do so typically, though not exclusively, with the deeply relaxed yet aroused and excited approach, more often than through localized excitement and tension. Localized excitement and tension usually results in a powerful discharge of energy, followed by a decrease in excitement. The orgasmic approach, on the other hand, tends to circulate the discharge with each orgasm. Consequently the overall energy builds and the aroused state deepens, ebbs, and flows - hence the term "riding the wave of bliss". To learn to become multi orgasmic, a woman usually needs to learn to breathe properly and to work with other factors such as sound, muscle relaxation, pelvic undulation, energy circulation, and connection with her partner.