A: Some thoughts: The fact that you used the word "should" leads me to suspect that you might be putting undue pressure on yourself. This particular love project will go much easier if you shift your attitude. "Shoulds" create performance anxiety. A sense of adventure and exploration is much more inspiring. Since so many people love oral sex, consider embarking on the adventure of discovering what it is about oral sex that turns people on! Secondly, change your languaging from oral sex to oral pleasuring it's a very different concept. Think of your self as pleasuring and giving a gift. It's been my experience that giving oral pleasuring is a great turn-on when:

• The giver is coming 200% from their heart. It's an act of adoration of the god/goddess aspect of your beloved. So it's an attitude of love, an intention of adoration, and a sustained placement of energetic attention in your heart chakra.
• Once you have awakened your heart and placed your intention there, make an energetic link between your heart chakra and your beloved's yoni and begin to tap into the enormous energy. Breathe in that energy, sending it first to your heart and next to other chakras; respond by flooding loving energy from your heart into her yoni with each exhale. Create the loop, building it with each breath.

There is a surprising range of taste and smell in women's yonis. I will forever remember the first time to orally pleasured a woman who was a health food purist and who exercised and meditated regularly - wow! What an incredible, surprising treat! Sweet, delicate fragrance and taste is what healthy lifestyle will usually offer. Let your wife read this, so that I said it, not you. The taste and smell are a minor aspect of oral pleasuring compared to you mastering your energy and consciousness. And even if taste and smell are not the issue for you (though they are discouragers for many men), how it currently is can get better! Also if a man cums inside a woman it changes the ph of her mucous membranes and makes the yoni less tasty. So orally pleasure first.