I can only orgasm on my back, What can I do?
Johanina Wikoff
Q: Thanks for your fascinating site. I am just beginning to get into Tantra, not practicing, just learning and exploring right now. I have a question that I have not seen even come up anywhere. I have tried for many years to change this about myself, and I think you may be able to make some suggestions. The problem is this: I cannot seem to have an orgasm in any other position but on my back with my legs straight. Tightening the muscles of my legs seems to be a necessary part of it for me. I enjoy other positions for intercourse, but cannot achieve an orgasm in any other position. Mostly my husband of 20 years and I just focus on bringing me to orgasm one way or another first, then completing the act for his pleasure. I want to be able to fully enjoy all the sexual positions that are mentioned, but I don't know what to do about this problem. What do you suggest? Laura
A: This is a common problem. Many women learn to orgasm by tightening up and focusing on "coming." While this can be successful to a point, the pleasure that is possible is limited by the position. If you take a look at the DVD Ancient Secrets of Sexual Ecstasy from Tantra.com, you will see couples breathing and moving their bodies during lovemaking in ways that facilitate full body orgasmic release. I suggest that you experiment with moving, breathing and not be focused on the orgasm, but rather on what feels good from moment to moment as you are making love.
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The following question is answered by Johanina Wikoff, Ph.D. also known as "Dr. Josie." She is an author, lecturer and international workshop presenter. Dr. Wikoff will answer questions submitted to questions@tantra.com.
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