The way to a man's heart is through his...

IF YOU SAID "stomach," you haven't been paying very close attention. Let's get one thing straight: even mediocre blow jobs make men happy. Unlike with a woman's vagina, where you can't always count on lingual caresses to translate into pleasurable sensations, simply taking his penis into your mouth is going to make your man feel pretty swell. Barring the presence of a scraping tooth, it's downright difficult to take the pleasure out of a blow job.

But if it's hard to give a completely unsatisfying blow job, it's equally hard to give a truly spectacular one. Precisely because they can make their partner climax without having to learn or develop skills, most people never treat him to the vast range of sensations oral sex can offer. And the majority of men, having never experienced these outer reaches, are hardly the best judges of their partners. As long as there are still people who think blow jobs are gross, or undignified, or who simply won't give them (and believe me, there're plenty of these), the bar is going to remain relatively low on BJ performance.

So if our men already act like they've won the lottery every time we get them off, why should we even try to improve our skills? Aren't we already doing them a favor by giving a blow job in the first place?

While it's true that you can please your man by simply forming your mouth into an O and bobbing juicily up and down for a while, the moaning, head-tossing, mattress-slapping, I-think-I-might-be-dying-but-please-don't-stop whoppers require more sophisticated tactics. Think more Fred Astaire than Stomp! To get the kinds of orgasms that will leave your man cross-eyed, a few up-and-down gestures and a little head play isn't going to do the trick. There are guidelines to follow, body parts to learn, and specific oral techniques to acquire.

Giving oral sex becomes more fun in direct proportion to the amount of pleasure it creates--the more you can unravel his sanity with the slightest touch of your tongue, the more fun you'll have below his belt. So let's hop to it!

from the book:

by Marcy Michaels