Q: My wife's pleasure in sex seems to be limited to making sure I'm satisfied. We have a friendly relationship and she is obliging and frank, but I don't think she wants me that way. This wasn't always the case. Twenty years ago we'd get so lost in sex that we'd forget to go to work. I'm fifty. She's forty-seven. We have one pleasant, responsible seventeen-year-old son. We're both fit and healthy, and B's wondering if she's pre-menopausal. Our life as responsible adults has been kind of frantic. I'd say the problem began with the responsibility of raising a hands-on kid, but he's quite independent now. Just to get the obvious out of the way, I'm attentive and share the housework. I'm gentle, easy to look at, and bathe, brush and floss. Work is hard for both of us and fifteen or so years ago my wife had a bicycle accident and required stitches in her vagina. Her family is nuts, but B. suffered from distance, not abuse (and her response to the distance made her more beautiful and virtuous). How can I get her to want me?