A soft, golden glow peeks out from behind your bedroom door. A musky-sweet scent wafts through the air causing a flutter in the very core of your being. You hear music, soft and reverent. You've never heard it before but it sounds so ancient to your soul that you shiver. The music draws you in, begs for your attention. What is this? You emerge from the momentary confusion to the sound of your lover's voice calling you to enter.

Once inside, a feast for the heart meets your eyes. A transformation has occurred in your old familiar bedroom. The warmth, the smells, the sounds – they beckon you to drop into your body and be present with the love and surrender you so longingly deserve. Your lover calls to you and asks you to sit before her. She takes your hands in hers, gazes steadfastly into your eyes and says: "Tonight, on this cold and harsh winter evening, I proclaim my love for you. I dedicate this evening to us and to the great gratitude I hold in my heart for all that we have."

She gazes into your eyes and breathes deeply. "As lovers, as humans on this tiny planet, as hard workers and faithful servants to our goals and dreams, I honor us and our time together. I dedicate this evening to us – to celebrate each other."

"Our powerful love will touch those souls that need love. Our passion is universal, and we support the universe with love. We, as the representation of Shakti and Shiva, the primordial balancing forces of the universe, make it our duty to shake, rattle and roll, for a few hours tonight. Welcome to our love nest!"

My suggestions for all of you this holiday season:

• Take yourself a little more lightly.
• Give thanks, out loud, whenever you feel gratitude welling up inside of you.
• Give a little more generously to those who are less fortunate.
• Be generous with your Love.
• Breathe.
• Create a love ritual, whether you are partnered or not, that expresses what you feel inside. Don't worry about looking silly. Light candles, pour that special wine, nibble a little chocolate. You might even want to consider a combination of pumpkin pie spices and lavender because they increase the blood flow to the penis by up to 40% in clinical studies! Ripe mango, music, massage oil and your fine imagination will go a long way towards warming your hearts.
• Light a candle together, as one. Say sweet words that tell of your love. Offer a sensual massage for some focused attention on your partner and then switch so it's your turn, too. You may want to get a small gift for your partner - how about a book on the Positions of the Kama Sutra? You might even try one of them out. Don't worry if you don't get it quite right, just explore and have fun. It's the attention and the intention that matters.
• This ritual of love will spread love to the rest of your family and friends. They will receive the benefits of the loving stability that you represent. Your presence will be appreciated and sought after. You will exude what we all want: Peace and Love.

It sounds too easy, I know, but it just may be that easy. In this time of stress, busy-ness, and questioning, I invite you to let the holidays be filled with you - the person who shows love and gratitude and who knows the secrets to deep intimacy.