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Why are you engaged to this man? Something must have turned you on to him. Ask yourself what those things are or were. Make a list and make it specific and detailed. If the list is short, you'll need to look at what has kept you continuing to try to get close to this man. Ask him to make the same list. Do this task separately and then come together to share the results. Each one of you should take your turn at speaking with the other listening attentively. This is important. Believe it or not, a person's passion for life can completely disappear if they don't feel heard. Many of us modern adults have grown up during a time when children where to be seen but not heard. We were not asked what we thought or if we would like to share our opinions. If a person gets stuck too deeply in this negative feedback loop as a young person, they will have a difficult time giving themselves permission to speak up about much at all...