Q: I am deeply in love with a man (we have known each other for ten years, of which the first two years we shared as a couple), who, after several weeks of evasive answers, has told me that his paralysis is creeping up is legs and he is going to loose his potency. He is handicapped because in early childhood tuberculosis (in the bones) was mistreated.

He decided to never again live a relationship with a woman because "I could not stand waking up beside the woman I love, knowing I will not be able to satisfy her needs." I am sure he is aware of the fact that the penis is not the only way of making love to a woman...Still, I want to figure out if there are ways for him to feel as much as possible with what is left. I am not trying to talk him into a relationship. It is just that it hurts me more than I can bear to imagine this man, isolated for the rest of his life, because no one dared to show him ways of staying in touch with the love within himself and others. Could Tantra be a way? Whom can I talk to in Berlin or the Frankfurt area?