Q)
The subject of ear kissing is largely unexplored. There is so much I have experienced in this field and yet I find very little expounded upon on this beautiful subject. What comments do you have regarding this?
A)
Unlike the ancient Hindus, modern cultures don't have excellent guides like the Kama Sutra to teach them about the more subtle aspects of lovemaking. Kama means "pleasure" in the ancient Sanskrit language, and Sutra means "aphorism or book." Hence, the Kama Sutra is a treatise on the ways of Love.
When it comes to exploring new areas in our lovemaking techniques we tend to go for the hot, strong overt qualities instead of moving into the realms of the soft and sensuous. Slowing down and investigating every inch of our partners skin can, on first investigation, seem too obvious. But ask yourself, "How often have I actually taken the time to discover my partners erogenous zones? Have I asked her or him what she likes and where and when they like it?" When we begin to open up to our partners in these new, subtle ways. we open new doors to a full range of intimacy and connecting.
What better place to start than with the lips and the ear!
We really have two unique subjects here, kissing and the ear. Kissing is treated as an art in itself and it can be developed to a very high art form. The ear is one of our main erogenous zones because it not only has many nerve endings, it also is situated near the neck, another highly erotic area. The ear is connected to our heart because it lends itself to listening to the words of Love.
Our lips are extremely sensitive and receptive to stimulation. Practice using your lips in a soft, open way. Many of us hold our lips rather stiffly, not letting them relax and open to the receiving and giving required for good kissing. Part them slightly and keep them moist. This will heighten their sensitivity. Practice pouting softly when you are by yourself. This relaxes the lips and exposes more of the fleshy interior. In general, become more aware of your lips. Try eating your meals slower than you might usually and really feel the food passing between your lips.
The ear, as in any erogenous zone, should be approached slowly, with a little teasing. Try a soft breath to start. Get close to the ear that is about to enjoy being the object of arousal. With slightly open lips, spread your warm breath around the ear and behind it. Move in with very soft and light kisses to the top area and the immediate hairline just above the ear. You might take a small piece of hair in your lips and give it a little pull, just to entice. Move down the ear slowly to the fleshier areas and the lobe. Kiss and gently blow. Speak to your partner with barely audible words, teasing a little, if you want to or reminding them to relax and breathe in the experience.
As your partner begins to react by moving their body and making sounds, begin to press your lips a little harder and with more ardor. Take the lobe and lightly press and suck on it with your two lips. Move briefly to the neck just below the ear and place a few kisses there before moving back to the lobe. Now try a few light bites on the lower, fleshy part of the ear. Be gently and playful. This is a bite to entice and show your passion. It is not meant to hurt. After the bites, don't move away without first kissing and sucking a little more. You don't ever want to move away after a tease like a soft bite. Come back and treat the ear to a soft and sensual experience again before going on.
It is helpful to experience lovemaking as a dance, with many moves and sentiments that can be explored on the dance floor of the bedroom. Remember that what ever you are practicing in your lovemaking, the feelings the giver is giving should feel just as good as the feelings the receiver is receiving. Enjoy the exploration!
