"How delicious an instrument is woman, when artfully played upon; how capable is she of producing the most exquisite harmonies, of executing the most complicated variations of love, and of giving the most Divine of erotic pleasures." --The Ananga Ranga
The Ananga Ranga is a book of love that appeared later than the Kama Sutra. The quote above gives credence to the notion that when we are present and giving to our partner we receive the same back in generous amounts. We spiral up-wards, in ever-expanding ways, rather than into old, time –worn patterns that can create a downward spiral. Ways of being bring our energy either into full creative possibility or take us to a place that lacks energy and makes us feel stuck.
In the practice of Tantra, when we learn the ways in which our partner likes to be touched, spoken to and respected, we can not help but have deeper communications and greater understanding of their nature. This generosity of spirit and the creating of the time it takes to explore and learn new things together, brings a bigger awareness to the relationship. Spiritual Sexuality is but one of the paths that a couple can take to bring about a transformation to the relationship, but it is the one that those who know say can bring about the most profound changes.
The simple act of sitting cross-legged, facing each other and eye gazing and breathing together can cause a whole range of reactions in a couple. They might feel silly or New Age-y, afraid and vulnerable, excited or confused. But if they stay, breathe, and soften, a whole range of new sensations will arise. Not only will the partners feel more open, they will be passing valuable pheromones to each other. These are the love chemicals that are contained in our breath, body secretions and sweat. They are the love attractors and an important part of what connected you with your partner when you first met.
When a couple wants great sex the prerequisite is great communication. If either partner can’t comfortably ask for what they want or would like to playfully explore, the trust breaks down and the spiral of energy works it’s way downward. Trust and truth are necessary for there to be an opening for one’s nature to come out. A woman might be the Goddess described in the quote above, but if she feels that it isn’t safe to bring that erotic part of herself forth, she’ll feel constrained and small. If, on the other hand, she is invited to ask for what she wants and act the way she sometimes feels, not only will her sexual energy increase, the same increase in energy will be apparent throughout her life.
This is universally true for all people, in anything they do in life. That is what Tantra is truly about.
