A: The first time is a special event in a couple's relating, and creating a setting is part of contributing to a memorable coming together. While seduction can be erotic, telling your sweetheart you are planning a special night with him as the honored guest can also build anticipation. Create a sumptuous and pleasing environment with flowers, candles, and sensual music; burn incense and aromatic oils. Offerings of finger foods are a nice touch. Clean and beautiful sheets and spreads create an inviting bedchamber. Wear a soft and silky garment, perhaps with tassels that play lightly against your partners skin when you brush against him.

When your beloved arrives, treat him as an honored guest. Provide a comfortable robe or sarong for him to change into. Bathe or shower together and then place a warm towel on the bed or floor and massage him with a good oil that you have warmed. Think of yourself as a goddess, a courtesan, or a geisha as you sensually stroke his body using your hands, breasts, and lips. And don't be in a hurry. Be present in your touch, feel the pleasure of touching and giving pleasure to another. Enjoy the dance of love without a goal or a destination.