Tantra is an ancient way of looking at the world. In the Tantric view, all life and every aspect of creation including sexuality is celebrated and held as sacred.
The Tantric traditions of ancient India and other cultures viewed sexual energy as the source of life itself and as one of the most powerful forces available to us as human beings. Sexual ecstasy was seen as a taste of the divine. In these sex positive cultures, sophisticated lovemaking skills were developed and taught as a science and as an art. Since we have repressed sexual energy for so long in the West, we are only now beginning to rediscover this precise and highly developed science.
By extending and expanding the peak of sexual ecstasy, erotic explorers of the past found that the act of love could become a natural vehicle for exploring altered states as well as for deepening intimacy between two loving partners.
Many of us have been fortunate enough to experience moments in love where all boundaries dissolve and we become one with our beloved and all of existence. Unfortunately these experiences are usually very short lived. Sex in Tantra aims to heighten and prolong the magical connection that develops between a man and a woman when they are lost in the ecstasy of love. We have not been trained in the skills required to expand that fleeting moment into a sustainable state. As we are now finding out, there are specific techniques that have been developed for achieving and controlling these states. After being suppressed for nearly a thousand years these methods are now being rediscovered and made available in the form of books, videos and workshops... (MORE)
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The purpose of the Yoni massage is to create a space for the woman to receive focused attention so that she can attain long, delicious states of relaxation and achieve high states of sustained arousal. This allows her to recognize and experience her mind and body during deep pleasure derived from her Yoni. Her partner, the giver, will experience the joy of being of service and witnessing the profound pleasure potential a woman is capable of...(MORE)
Some of the time you want an orgasm, pure and simple. Cultural constraints, modern media, lovers and friends can all influence how you might feel about your body, emotions and your ability to orgasm. You want what she's having and you want it now. If that's the case then you're going to have to know a whole lot more about your body and how it works in order to journey to the fertile fields of G-spot and vaginal orgasms...(MORE)
In any relationship there comes a time where it is critical that partners deepen intimacy. After almost five years of marriage, I needed to find an environment in which I could feel tender towards myself and allow without judgment my deeper self to emerge, while at the same time create a fresh, deeper, honest and trusting connection with my partner. I'd hoped that I could also find a way to recharge the erotic juices of our relationship...(MORE)
Kama Sutra
The Kama Sutra is far more than what it is known for -
exotic sex positions. Kama translates to pleasure -
pleasure of all kinds, including enjoying the arts and
sciences, games, family and friends, nature and sensual
and sexual exploits. Sutra means aphorisms or short
verses which can be easily remembered and interpreted
by experts of the day. That is the beauty of the Kama
Sutra - that it is open for interpretation for our modern
times.
It is written in seven parts, each
according to different aspects of the conduct of love;
general information including morals and household duties,
the details of sexual union, acquiring a wife, duties of
a wife, wives of other people, issues with courtesans
and a final section on aphrodisiacs and potions. We,
however, will focus on the aspects of Tantra, positions,
sensuality and aphrodisiacs in keeping with our themes
here at Tantra.com.
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02/04/2010
Sex Dreams: The Difference Between Men And Women
Suzie Heumann
How often does, say, George Clooney show up in my dreams, or for that matter in any woman's dreams? Of course, I'm specifically referring to sexual dreams. Unfortunately we don't have any research that tells us about good old George and thee but we do have some hints about the content of sexual dreams nevertheless.
It is often suggested that good dreams occur more often when we are in good health and have had positive thoughts right before we go to sleep. Case in point: I sometimes have bad dreams after I've eaten too much, or too late or have had a bit too much to drink. I try to avoid this because, obviously, I don't like bad dreams!
My dreams with sexual content come after I've had great sex or I've seen a movie with even the hint of great sex in it. Remembering dreams, making sense out of our daily experiences and committing those daily experiences to memory are important functions of sleep. And it looks like great sex can reinforce itself by making good dreams out of the experience too.
In a study completed in 2007 researchers headed by Antonio Zadra, PhD, of the University of Montreal analyzed the dream reports of more than 3,500 men and women. They looked at the nature of the content in both sexes. Of the mixed group eight percent of the dreams involved sexual content of some form. The most common form of sexual activity was intercourse. Propositions for sex, kissing, fantasy and masturbation were the next most common dream content reported.
Some very interesting parts of the research involved differences in the ways men and women experience sexual activity. Both men and women described having orgasms themselves in about 4 percent of their dreams. In another 4 percent of the women's dreams another dream participant had the orgasm but in the men's dreams none reported that the 'other' participants had orgasms. In their dreams, 20 percent of the women's partners where current or past lovers. In the men's dreams, this figure was 14 percent. Multiple partners were twice as likely in men's sexual dreams and public figures were twice as likely in women's dreams. This corroborates the evolutionary idea of men spreading their 'seed'' and women being attracted to 'providers.'
"Observed gender differences may be indicative of different waking needs, experiences, desires and attitudes with respect to sexuality," said Zadra. "This is consistent with the continuity hypothesis of dreaming which postulates that the content of everyday dreams reflects the dreamer's waking states and concerns -- that is, that dream and waking thought contents are continuous."
So does actively and purposefully thinking about sex create more dreams about it and fundamentally lead to more thinking about sex and then acting upon that? I have always believed that if women thought about sexual activities more that they would then have more sex. This is the male model that is seen in research. Would this actually increase desire in women? There is some evidence that women in the last 40 years are experiencing more sexual dreams and that they are more comfortable revealing that they are dreaming about sex. This is probably due to the increased information on the Internet, in magazines and more social interaction many women experience today.
I am wondering if we can actually learn to 'drive' the content of our dreams. Lucid dream experts say we can with some practice. Just thinking about what you might want to dream about right before you go to sleep each night might do the job. Try it for a few nights in a row and see what happens. Collectively we women may be able to exhaust poor , or lucky, George Clooney!
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Sexuality is one of the biggest blind spots modern cultures
have. That fact alone makes consciousness practices that
include Tantra very important to the transformation of the
individual and society. Tantric sex practices occur
with eyes wide open, with ritual and communication and
honoring of the male and female essences. The elements,
sound, sight, touch, the senses, food, visioning,
connectedness, oneness and multiple other mind/body/spirit
elements comprise the practices and focus of Tantra.... (MORE)
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