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Polonsky: So then, in a nutshell, the goal of ancient tantra was spiritual purification, and the purpose of the Kama
Sutra was to foster well-adjusted citizenship. What are the objectives of modern Western tantra, and do they bear any relationship
to those of the old version?
Heumann: I'd say the primary objective of western tantra is to lessen the sense of duality that exists between people,
to deepen our connectedness, to break down barriers so that love can be more present. There is nothing that separates me from you
really. We each have a skin, but we're exchanging molecules of oxygen and CO2 even right this moment. When you get down to it,
everyone has the same needs and desires; we are one.
Westerners are involved with sacred sexuality because we are searching for a personal experience of spirit. Many people start
with the sexual practices and then move on to the more esoteric breath and emotional practices. Today, just like in ancient times,
tantra is about risking, and pushing the edges of discovery. Tantra basically says, "Say yes to everything." In that way, you get
beyond maya, the veil of illusion, much faster. All the outrageous experiences you can have aren't really what life's about.
It's ultimately about presence, about being.
Polonsky: But outrageous experiences seem to be precisely what western tantra promises. When you and Michael joined
your tantric community some twenty years ago, weren't you searching for new experiences? And was polyamory part of it?...
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According to some estimates, about 30 percent of American men reach orgasm earlier than they'd like to.
Decades ago Alfred Kinsey, one of the early famous sex researchers, found that 75% of the men he tested ejaculated within
two minutes of vaginal entry. Pretty quick, don't you think? Yeah, well, I can remember when I regularly beat that record.
The good news is that this sad situation motivated sex therapists to develop successful solutions to premature ejaculation.
And it spurred us Tantra folks to study the ancient texts for powerful secrets of mastering our orgasms. I've tried them all
and some work tremendously. So I wrote an electronic book to share my experience with others who want to last longer.
The purpose of the tantra yoni massage is to create a space for the woman to receive focused attention so that she can attain long, delicious
states of relaxation and achieve high states of sustained arousal. This tantric massage allows her to recognize and experience her mind and body
during deep pleasure derived from her Yoni. Her partner, the giver, will experience the joy of being of service and witnessing
the profound pleasure potential a woman is capable of.
A tantra yoni massage builds trust and intimacy and it is important for the giver to remember this aspect. Soft, attentive communication
is paramount to its success as emotional issues from past trauma are likely to arise during any session, especially at first. Various forms
of Yoni Massage can be used to assist women to release blocks, past trauma and pain so that the woman can move forward towards
a fuller expression of her physical nature.
Tantra Yoni massage builds trust and intimacy and it is important for the giver to remember this aspect. Soft, attentive
communication is paramount to its success as emotional issues from past trauma are likely to arise during any session,
especially at first. Various forms of Yoni Massage can be used to assist women to release sexual blocks, past trauma and
pain so that the woman can move forward towards a fuller expression of her sexual nature.
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"A one hour orgasm! Is this a joke?" asked a friend when we told him what we were working on. No. A "one hour orgasm" is an orgasm
with hundreds, even thousands, of orgasmic contractions one after the other after the other. You don't believe this is possible?
Join the club. Neither did we. No one we had ever met, including Dr. Ruth, had any idea of what we were talking about. The only
way you will become a believer is the way we did; after your first one.
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Surveys and sexuality reports tell us that roughly only 20% of sexually active women have orgasms during intercourse.
Assumptions will need to be made about that number because we don't know if that includes manual stimulation of the clitoris
during intercourse or not and several other issues that might skew the statistics. Let's work with that number, however.
Orgasms are important to women no matter how convincing the idea of being in the pleasure without being goal oriented.
Some of the time you can do this and some of the time you want an orgasm, pure and simple. Cultural constraints, modern
media, lovers and friends can all influence how you might feel about your body, emotions and your ability to orgasm. You
want what she's having and you want it now. If that's the case with you then you're going to have to know a whole lot more
about your body and how it works in order to journey to the fertile fields of G-spot and vaginal orgasms. The positions
come after you have the knowledge of your interior topography down and know your hot-spots from your not-spots. Self-pleasuring
is the necessary evil! Set aside the time to spend with yourself soon. An hour three days a week should do it.
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When she first tells you about her interest in female ejaculation, it is wise to take a back seat, keep an open mind, and
see what transpires. Let her get used to the idea, and encourage her to experiment and
develop her abilities on her own for a while. I recommend that women learn how to ejaculate
on their own at first, find their G-spot, learn how to stimulate it, and how to build and expel ejaculate fluid.
Once female ejaculation is achieved in this solo manner, a woman will have more success ejaculating with
a partner. But if she insists that you get involved earlier in her explorations, the following are some things you can do:
Become familiar with G-spot anatomy and how to stimulate her G-spot. Encourage her to tell you what she likes, especially
if she doesn't usually speak up. Have a sense of humor and don't be goal-oriented; most women like ejaculation and
want to ejaculate, but for them it's less a goal than part of the overall experience of making love.
All of the attempts you make, even if they don't result in ejaculation, move both of you farther along the learning
curve and increase the likelihood of eventual success. Women like to include their partners in activities, and sexuality
is no exception. But from a woman's perspective, men can be too enthusiastic and rush into "getting the job done." Nothing
prevents ejaculation more effectively than pressure to ejaculate! Most women need time to talk about female ejaculation, to
explore its twists and turns, before they actually attempt it.
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